I remember when my wife got pregnant. The beginning was so cool for me we had tracker apps and doctor appointments every few weeks to look forward to. I was always intrigued and hungry for all and any information we could gain. When I heard Of the genetic testing for Down syndrome we were both on-board. At the time we wanted to know everything. In my head I figured if it found any problems that we would be rebooting and starting over. I knew it would be difficult but I thought we were in agreement and taking the test proved it . It wasn’t fully covered by our plan but we went ahead and pulled the trigger on it regardless. The test revealed no anomaly and life went on . We didn’t have to think any more of it .
Few weeks later , they did find abnormalities, we were given the option to abort . The answer was no. It was always going to be no. I just didn’t know it when we signed up for the first test. The baby was growing inside my wife. We had named him , she had nicknamed him in her head . She had a bond with that little guy. She wasn’t going to easily give it up. There’s forces at work here that prior to it happening to me I didn’t understand because I’m not a pregnant women.
My story has a happy ending, thankfully. The thing is , when I started sharing my story I heard several similar stories inside my small circle 3 other misdiagnosis and each felt strong pressure to abort. Even the Doctor told us that they can guess and test and measure all they want but they can’t do much until the patient (baby) is on the table in front of him. So basically any preparation we thought we could make was really just worrying and keeping us up at night during crucial times during the period . The times I did sleep were filled with hellish nightmares . My day to day became bursting with stress .My advice to any body thinking this over is have a good long talk before you decide because you can not unknow things. What you think is a no brained decision as a man might not compute the same in your woman’s brain. And get this . Your baby is coming and it will be what it will be. They seem to get these tests wrong often too. If I get the chance I don’t think I will be doing the tests again. The sense of security you think you will gain from it evaporates in an instant the moment you don’t hear what you want to hear. I’ll wait to start not sleeping at night until the newborn comes . I don’t need to start early .
